THE ELEPHANT'S GUIDE TO MANAGING DIFFICULT BEHAVIOR: THE SEARCH FOR SOLUTIONS - "One Bite at a Time."

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Clashes between individuals sometimes happens. Parent-child, spouse-spouse, employee-employer or even between a dating or live-in couple, not every personal issue is a trauma. Not every relationship distress episode is an emotional disorder. Not every family issue is an unsolvable problem. For life's daily challenges or for family and personal issues the Centre is here to serve your needs.

Friction between parents and children are not uncommon, in fact, they come with the territory. However...

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WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE TO KNOW?

  1. Are you curious about coaching in general?
  2. Are you curious about parent coaching specifically?
  3. Are you curious about finding solutions to your specific situation?

What Isn't Working for You?

  1. You try to 'explain' reasons or rules to your child only to have your child continue to act out or ramp up his or her demands.
  2. Your child calls you names when he can't have his way.
  3. Your child insists that you must stop what you are doing NOW and drive her somewhere to purchase a desired item.
  4. Your child ignores the routine and engages in delay tactics which makes him or her late to school or other planned activities.
  5. You awaken frequently with a sense of anxiety, wondering what new kind of drama your child will create that day.
  6. You tend to waver in your discipline techniques if you believe that you are being 'too hard' on your child and/or if you tend to believe that he or she 'cannot help' how they are wired, therefore, they require more: more time, more tolerance, more leeway. --To cite but a few general examples.

If you are still reading, it is highly likely that you have read a mountain of books, followed all kinds of advice, and yet you still wonder if you will ever find anything that will bring you a sense of confidence as you go about establishing a safe structure and routine for your child, who is presently testing you beyond endurance.

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WHY THE ELEPHANT'S GUIDE?

It's the answer to the riddle, "How do you eat an elephant?" Solution: "One bite at a time."

Parenting issues do not develop overnight and understanding how the 'old patterns' impede the progress you wish to make NOW is not always easy to grasp. Coaching, parent education...call it what you will, it is easier for an outside objective professional to help you make the connections about your situation, and help you gain CLARITY about what you want to do with the options available to you.

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ARE YOU SERIOUSLY COMMITTED TO CHANGE?

I have a unique offer for some of you reading here today:

As you know I work with parents and others seeking relief from relationship stress. As a special offer for reading this page, I am extending to you an invitation to schedule a complimentary consultation to discuss how coaching may help you resolve your relationship stress issues. The consultation is free and you are under no obligation to hire me in the session. In fact, I am very selective about whom I work with anyway. I will be happy to talk with those of you who are serious and committed to significantly improving their interpersonal relationships.

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WHO THE CLIENT IS

The individual coaching client is someone who wants to reach one or more of the following: a higher level of performance, learning, or satisfaction. The client is not seeking emotional healing or relief from psychological pain.

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HOW SERVICE IS DELIVERED

Coaches and clients arrange the schedule and means of contact (e.g., in person, by phone, or via e-mail) that serve them both.

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THE RELATIONSHIP IN COACHING

A coach relates to the client as a partner. A coach does not relate to the client from a position of an expert, authority, or healer.

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RESULTS

Coaching is designed to help clients improve their learning and performance, and enhance their quality of life.

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TIME FRAMES

Coaching concentrates primarily on the present and future. Coaching does not focus on the past or on the past's impact on the present.

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EMOTIONS

Coaching assumes the presence of emotional reactions to life events and that clients are capable of expressing and handling their emotions.

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RELATIONSHIP TO PSYCHOTHERAPY

Coaching can be used concurrently with psychotherapeutic work. It is not, however, used as a substitute for psychotherapeutic work.

ADVICE

Advice, opinions, or suggestions are occasionally offered in coaching.

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REQUESTING

A coach makes a request of the client to promote action toward the client's desired outcome.

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EXPERTISE

Coaches are experts in the coaching process and may not have specific knowledge of a given subject area or industry.

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RELATIONSHIP

Relationship is the foundation of coaching.

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USE OF INFORMATION

In coaching, information drawn from the client is used by the coach to promote the client's awareness and choice of action. This information is not used to evaluate performance or produce reports for anyone but the person being coached.

SCOPE

Coaching has the freedom and flexibility to address a wide variety of personal and professional topics.

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CONTRIBUTION TO RESULTS

In coaching, any contribution the coach makes to producing the client's desired outcome is through on-going interaction with the client. The coach's role does not include producing a contracted product or result outside of the coaching sessions.

ONGOING IMPACT

Coaching is designed to provide clients with a greater capacity to produce results and a greater confidence in their ability to do so.

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Source: International Coach Federation